A really good friend of mine once told me that you need to have three planned routes in place to get to any destination. Why? Of course, the most obvious reason is because of the need to plan ahead, just in case of the unexpected; road blocks, car trouble, etc… However, I’d like to examine an even deeper meaning.

Consider what you miss when you always take the same  route. You deprive yourself of the opportunity to explore new adventures, meet remarkable people and enjoy some beautiful sites. You may find that a different route is easier to follow and may save time. You could come in contact with a person, place or thing that may be perfect for someone in your circle. It will allow you to share the information with others.

Of course, you may encounter some serious issues when venturing out in a new direction. It may actually take you longer the first time out because the route is unfamiliar to you. It may even be worse than your original route. The scenery may not be quite as nice, the people might not be as friendly or caring and the route may prove to not be as eventful, maybe even boring.  Even the best  routes have detours. It’s good to know and understand that you may have to travel through some less than desirable territory to get to your destination. By learning to travel different roads, you can better cope when you have to make an unexpected u-turn. Plan a route and leave in plenty of time to allow for mishaps to occur. No matter where you’re going, you want to arrive there safely, on time and with minimal problems.

There is no specific script or plan of action that should be taken when considering how to deal with domestic violence. It  can and should be handled in a number of different ways. The ultimately goal is change,  justice, equality, self sufficiency and tangible solutions. It takes trial and error, an open mind and willingness to explore new routes and alternatives, and an understanding that no matter what course of action one takes, it most certainly will take time to get where you need to be.

I’ve chosen at least three ways to continue to address my road to self esteem, self sufficiency and self empowerment. I believe in myself. I believe in counseling.  I continue to forge relationships with those who provide balance and a strong sense of support. There are times when one of these chosen roads has not been available. When that happens, I rely on one of the others. These three roads play a significant role in how I assess my past, present and future. I challenge each of you to take inventory of where you were, where you are and where you’re going. It will help you to establish successful avenues towards your goals, recognizing that no road is never 100% accurate.