Had some awesome power meetings this weekend. A very successful business partner, Mr. Barry Donelson, reminded us to challenge our F.E.A.R.-False Evidence Appearing Real. I’m excited about the infinite possibilities ahead professionally & personally. I want to collaborate with and help as many people as possible to pursue their dreams, establish multiple streams of income, stop existing and start living. I don’t want to just give a person a fish. I want to teach them to fish. There’s a real sense of pride in doing things on your own, waking up in the mirror knowing that you have peace of mind and control of your life and the direction it takes. I want to take this journey with anyone who’s ready experience the very best that life has to offer.
I’ve spent a large portion of my life living in fear-fear of what others will think of me, my choices & my aspirations. Fear of being alone. Fear of not being accepted. These fears carried over from Jr High to High School into my adult life and sadly, they played a major role in my decision making. What I’ve come to realize is that people will always have something to say about you. There will always be dream killers & dream stealers. There will always be ‘frienemies’. There will always be backstabbers and if you’re really fortunate, those that will actually be direct enough to tell you what they think of you, and it won’t be done out of love.
The bright side is that there will always be those who see your potential and will bring out the very best parts of you. There will always be those who are willing to work with you to make your dreams a reality. They will be the ones who will tell you to rethink your decisions, offer constructive criticism and alternatives. They will remind you that being alone does not mean you have to be lonely. They will add value to your life.
The reason we don’t experience the bright side as much is because we allow the fear of the unknown to overshadow the possibility that maybe, just maybe, there’s some joy to be found on the other side of coin. The fears we have isn’t about other people. It’s about the insecurities we have within ourselves. When you’ve been holistically beaten down, it’s hard to see yourself as anything more than average, maybe even less than average. And, if you see yourself that way, it’s virtually impossible to believe that anyone else will see any differently. So, even when you hear something positive about yourself, you simply don’t believe it.
I challenge everyone who reads this blog to examine the fears that hinder you from being the best person you can be. Further, I challenge you to encourage at least one person you know to do the same. I am a single woman who has decided to take domestic violence advocacy, telecommunications and social marketing to another level. I believe in my business, my services and most of all, I believe in myself. One of my best physical attributes is my smile. I have a genuine desire to help people. This is how I view myself. And, I’m grateful for the circle of people in my life who helped me to love and embrace the person I am today.
Given the experiences that I’ve had and knowing that I’m still standing, the last thing I should ever be fearful of is failure, defeat or what the next person thinks of me. People had opinions of me when I was walking to my destinations, when I was married & when I decided to separate. They will still have opinions when I’m driving my BMW, Hummer or Mercedes G-Class & when I get married again (yes, I said when, though there’s no time frame on either). I’m developing businesses and projects that I’m proud of right now. I cannot afford to be fearful of what someone else thinks of them. And, as I always say, I am not a victim of my circumstances. Rather, I’m a product of my resiliency. And when you’re resilient, there’s no room for fear.